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  1. Crimson

    Crimson New Member

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    It's been a hard 2019 for me. I met two girls in 2018 that I fell in love with and lost them both.

    The latter one towards the start of the year and for the whole year, I kept trying and moving, yeah, but I just couldn't stop thinking about her, and regretting that I couldn't get back in contact with her, and that she was gone forever.

    I've never felt so stagnant as I did in that year. But.... progress still happened, just slow. I hope to get the ball rolling again. Not in finding another girl in a rebound or anything, but just not let it drag me down as much as it has been. Be a little more.... fiery with moving past it.
     
  2. 5oul Crusher

    5oul Crusher sinew and steel

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    Today I'm meant to sit at a stall and proclaim the virtues of joining my Varsity's Anime Club of which I have claimed the coveted title of VP. I have found my old SOS Brigade banner which my brother won at a local convention (he got carried by some random in Sailor Moon trivia). So anyways I have an important thing in which I meant to be social with a bunch of strangers. I don't feel nervous about this, however I haven't been sleeping tonight and I should really get a full night's sleep. I believe we are meant to be located outside this year so I hope the sunlight will keep me functioning throughout.
     
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  3. Leaf

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    To share a bit about myself I never had good luck in finding good types of people to befriend pretty much my whole life. I guess I'm too nice or something and people take advantage of that, as well other things about me they found out. I had been hurt online and in person so much I lost count. I'm at the point in my life now if I never have any relations with people I'm alright with it and fully accept it. True, it would be extremely lonely but if you've been through what I have you could possibly understand why I'd consider that. Some things that happened to me were pretty traumatic others just how it is in the world we live in today you hear about. Something else about me is I'm also NOT afraid to speak my mind and tell it how it is. I don't sugar coat things with people and keep it 100% real with you. What ever happens, happens is what I go by now. I'm not desperate for friends eaither and I really take my time getting to know others. So if your not a patient person I apologize then it's how it is. I have my reasons why and I just don't trust you just like that
     
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  4. Crimson

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    Hang in there.
    I feel, given your actions in coming here, that your general mentality is that you don't want to live such a life. It's just you've come to this decision from the things that have happened to you. But that's the thing, we all go through that; you can't let it bring you down. Keep moving forward and things will always improve. It's mindset that is key above all else.
    You only fail when you set yourself up for failure.

    So the fact you're now taking action to try and remedy it is admirable. It shows to me a genuine want and drive, but you gotta stick with it. As you say, things take time, so it might take awhile, but one step at a time. And you'll be surprised.

    What I found most surprising in your description of yourself is acute social anxiety, yet no fear whatsoever in not mincing words. Such traits generally don't go together at all, and I feel that side of yourself might be your true self without the anxiety. Someone with a lot of confidence, so it's more that I say don't let anxiety bring down who you really are, or who you want to be.

    Sorry if I'm assuming; I like to read into people, and there was a lot to read into, and I hope things start going well for you. It hit a bit close to home, I guess.
     
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  5. Shannon Apple

    Shannon Apple Sour Apple
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    I used to be very similar to you in some ways, and perhaps I've just become better at hiding social anxiety, rather than having overcome it. I was bullied very harshly in school, so my confidence was very much pushed down to nothing. I found it difficult to make friends, but it was because I didn't think very highly of myself. When I went to college, I decided that I would be the kind of person to include people who were excluded because I had gone through that and knew what it was like. I invited people who were left out on their own to join my group of friends from class and that backfired on me. I ended up regretting it as I got totally trampled on. I am not painting myself as some super nice person, or anything, but I was super naive. I did, however, believe in treating others the way I'd like to be treated and felt betrayed when people didn't think the same way and treat me with the same respect I gave them. Sometimes, people who are alone are alone for a reason. I think it's important to be able to identify the difference between a shy person and someone who has no friends because they're difficult to get along with. I certainly didn't make that distinction when I was younger. Experience means that I can pretty much see through these types of people now and steer well clear.

    Now that I'm older and wiser, like you, I never sugarcoat the truth. If something is bothering me, I am going to come right out and say it. I might not say it right away haha, but if it's something continuous and bothersome... I'm saying something even if it's something that a person might not want to hear.
     
  6. Mr. Mister

    Mr. Mister Is Breaking Down

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    Had to have another surgery, albeit a minor one compared to the last one which stitched my legs back together. I had been having issues with one of my toes for a few weeks now. My doctor thought it was an ingrown toenail and prescribed a treatment regiment for that. It only got worse and the pain became so severe, I had to go to an urgent care facility. The doctor comes in, takes one look at it and says, "That is infected. We are going to have to remove that nail entirely." He then told me, "I'm so sorry, that looks incredibly painful." He was right, it was excruciating pain. He numbed me up and removed the whole nail. Apparently, I had damaged the nail a bit, probably from stubbing my toe some time back. And when that happened, bacteria got into it and started to destroy the nail and infect my toe. Good news is with the nail gone, the infection site is also gone and any remnants are being destroyed by medication now. Bad news is I have to change the dressing every night and the nerves are raw, which makes it very painful. I'm back to walking funny again and I had just fully recovered after the car accident. But with me being stuck at home due to the quarantine, I have plenty of time to heal up.
     
  7. Shannon Apple

    Shannon Apple Sour Apple
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    That sounds sore, but I'm really glad to hear that your other surgeries were a success. That was such a scary thing to go through!
     
  8. Interest1ng

    Interest1ng SC's AmbASSador.... MAWP!!!

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    I haven't said much here lately mostly due to my life getting flipped and turned upside down.

    I have had a roller coaster of emotions high's and low's.

    In the past year... I have had more loss than I want to ever experience again. 1st we lost my wife's grandmother, then I lost my job in October, and then I lost another daughter that was born pre-mature in January.

    It is hard and nothing in life ever prepares you for these things. I think that I am ready for it, but I am just lying to myself constantly. After being out of work for 3 months I finally got a great opportunity as a Director of Operations for a local family owned company.

    I have learned a lot and then slapped in the face with a pandemic that has caused our company to have to lay off a good portion of our work force due to the decrease in business.

    I am keeping my head up and looking forward to the day that we can come out of this on top and making money again.
     
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  9. Koda

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    Well since I was last on here, I moved up from Commis-JnrSous-Sous and Now Head chef as of November. I then got promoted in January to Regional trainer for our Southern England Sites. Career wise I couldn't have asked for more, I've worked so hard and I've been paid back for it which has given me hope that good companies do exist. Personally I visited Japan for the 2nd time in September for my 24th Birthday, which was just amazing . I broke up with my GF of 4 years back in December. That's pretty much about it mostly work work work. Until now
     
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  10. Mr. Mister

    Mr. Mister Is Breaking Down

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    Spent the weekend navigating the black market of Animal Crossing: New Horizons. And even though everything looked like it was turning into a complete disaster, it worked out far better than I ever expected in the end. Let me explain.
    There is an underground market (well, not too underground now) for items and especially, villagers, in the new Animal Crossing game. And demand drives up price and so on. People are paying with Nook Miles Tickets (obtained in game) or with Bells (game's monetary system). But when it comes to certain villagers, the prices are astronomical. The top three are always; Raymond, Marshal, and Audie, bar none. You have a top 10, but those shift around a bit with those three always at the top. I was looking for one villager, Ankha. She was all I wanted. Have wanted her for a long while. But I was having no luck because she is in the Top 10, so high prices for her typically. I had friends who gave me Tickets so I could find her. So I saved up the Tickets, hoping to get lucky. I found a guy willing to part with her. A price was negotiated and now I just needed to clear a space for her. So, I time traveled in game to force a villager to move out and clear a plot for her. But with that done, I made a horrible mistake. I went back to the current day's date. The game is set up so if a plot is empty for more than 24 hours, the game will automatically choose a random villager to move into that plot. Needless to say, that happened to me. I saw the 'Sold' sticker on the sign and was devastated. I was so close to getting Ankha and I shot myself in the foot. But when I read the sign, that dismay turned to joy. The villager the game randomly chose to buy that empty plot? Audie, one of the Top 3 villagers and one of those who sell for hundreds of Tickets and millions of Bells. I never imagined I would ever get her and to get her through such a luck of the draw, unreal. But I still had to tell the guy who was going to sell me Ankha I had screwed up. Come to find out that this guy has Ankha's Amiibo, meaning he can bring her back to his island at any time. He said as long as I cleared a plot for her to buy, he'd bring her back to his island so I could get her. The next day, I had a plot cleared (and did not make the same mistake), traveled to his island, and Ankha now lives on my island. I finally have the villager I long sought and managed to get one of the most desired villagers in the process because of a mistake I am now glad I made.
    In my search for her, I made many good friends, who are searching for their favorite villagers. They helped me immensely and I intend to help them to get their dream villagers, just like they helped me.
     
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  11. Osiris

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    Well, I just woke up and someone took advantage of that to almost manipulate me in handing my credit card information over a WhatsApp call, disguising himself as a bank teller from my registered bank, telling me lies about how my bank needs to update all cards due to the Corvid-19 situation. Thank god I suspected something was off in the middle of informing him my credit card number and reported his ass to the bank. My card is now being replaced.

    So that was fun, people using the virus to perform frauds. Sigh.
     
  12. Shannon Apple

    Shannon Apple Sour Apple
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    Yeah, this has been happening around here too. There are ads going out on our local radio station from banks about fraudulent calls relating to Covid19. A bank will never ask for your details over the phone. . Unfortunately, honest people are falling for these things. It's obviously profitable enough for them when they keep coming up with new scams. I'm glad you figured it out in time. =)
     
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  13. Finfan

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    Well, I'm retired and living in what is rapidly becoming a COVID hot spot. Looking at self isolating until there is a vaccine available. FINALLY! I'm a Hiki-NEET!
     
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  14. Griffmeister

    Griffmeister What the hell are you staring at?
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    Ha, I just moved into one of those 55+ communities two weeks ago. At the time we were leaving CT, considered a hot spot then, and moving to FL. Now, just two weeks later, the tides have changed and FL is one of the new hot spots. Only CT and RI have managed to flatten the curve. Definitely watching the reports now and tracking the spread, just glad we’re not in the Villages.
     
  15. ThisGuy

    ThisGuy Kin of the Cosmos
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    Last couple of days were brutally hot/humid. On a recent long bike ride I was pretty sure I was going to have a heat stroke; the worst part is I took a turn thinking I could cut the route shorter, of course I wasn't thinking particularly straight and I ended up adding more distance with that route and by the time I realized what happened it didn't matter if I went backwards or forwards because it would be the same distance to get back on track. I had cramps, I felt sick, I couldn't keep up my form, I was panting like crazy. I remember pushing myself thinking about how the mental aspect is just as important as the physical, I didn't want to give up and call someone to pick me up, maybe I was just scaring myself and it was all in my head. Then things were starting to turn fuzzy, I got a bit scared, and I was thinking "well if I drop here, at least someone should find me." In the end I made it home, had a beer while taking the longest cold shower known to humankind and then I sacked right out for a solid 12 hours. I'll definitely be more careful in the future though.

    Fishing, Camping, Biking and Shooting; Summer has been great so far. Made $$$ on stocks, have a decent job, and everyday I have a full stomach; with that kind of luck I am kinda flying high right now.
     
  16. Shadow Fox

    Shadow Fox Enemy of the State
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    Its been kinda cold here where I am. Two days ago I had to wear a sweater in my house for about an hour because my room was kinda chilly. Hope it lasts but I am guessing the cold patch my home must be sitting in won't last forever and it will probably heat up really soon. I am still looking for work after quitting beginning of july. Probably spent way more money than I ever should had because I thought when unemployment sent me a first check I was going to keep getting them but every single other check was sent with a letter instead informing me that "there was a problem and we cannot send you money" and this has gone 4 times in a row now with no call from the unemployment peeps. :(

    I think I am gonna call them really soon if it happens again. It took me the first two weeks just to get my cannabis olcc license and there are quite a few people looking for farming work. I hope I can at least get my foot in the door.
     
  17. Mr. Mister

    Mr. Mister Is Breaking Down

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    There has been much going on in my life currently. My aunt recently moved away after living within a few miles of me for the last 15 years. She now resides in Idaho and is much happier there. I am still without a job, but not for lack of trying. But with everything getting shut down, re-opened, and shut down again, it's frustrating and businesses are hunkering down just to survive. On top of that, unemployment refuses to give me any help, stating I didn't make enough money last year to qualify for relief. But I know people who didn't work at all last year and received over 10 grand in unemployment because of the pandemic. I applied for pandemic unemployment, rather than the standard unemployment, and am hoping for the best. Money is running thin and bills haven't gone away. A friend of mine cut me off. We had been friends for well over a year and when I contacted him again, he basically told me that he felt we didn't connect enough to stay friends. But fortunately, I have another friend who is helping me with issues that I have had my whole life. Let's just say I apparently have some deep seated trauma in my past that makes it very difficult for me to be able to enjoy things as I should.
     
  18. Shadow Fox

    Shadow Fox Enemy of the State
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    My temp job is about to turn into a year around job. My boss is really super cool. Gave me a whole contractor bag full of fabric smart pots and a bag of soil for my clone....which he let me keep. I just spent like $400.00 on gear I need to begin my very own grow. I also found a seed inside of one of the buds while I was doing finish trimming today. So excited.

    Here is just some of the gear I picked up for my indoor grow.
    https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01731MNJE/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
    https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07VL8FZS1/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

    and I also have intake air pumps and a speed control for them as well. I got all my nutrients read, my grow and bloom and my calmag and liquid karma and my ph chems for ph balancing the water. I can't wait!
     
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  19. Shadow Fox

    Shadow Fox Enemy of the State
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    Everything for my first grow is all set up, and guess what? MY FIRST SEED SPROUTED! EEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!

    I got a chemdawg that srouted a full inch and a half in a single night. I cannot wait to get it grown up enough so I can feed it!
     
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